Mothers tend to cling to their sons with the mind set that another woman want to take her son away,in this contest a mother tend to have the feeling of over protecting his son from the new woman,making sure she monitors her before she allow the woman to get married to her son.
A mother in-law looks out for the following features in a woman before accepting her.
Characters: mother in-law look at her characters to know if she will be able to take good care of her son when it comes to respecting him and her approach to things.
As the saying goes" a girl with good characters makes a great wife".
In Nigeria during courtship the man takes the woman home not because he just want her to visit the parent but for the mother and sister or ladies in the house to access her to know if she will make a good wife,
Some ladies have been able to find a way to escape this test since they already understand the intention of the man visiting home with her;she tends to pretend.
Family background: the mother in-law always want to know where the lady is from,eg her tribe,parents background,etc,she takes it upon herself to dig deep into where the girl is coming from by asking questions and interviewing the girl in question to get a direct information,during this process there should be utmost sincerity because every little lie will leave to problem when she finds out from a third party.
Good cook: she give the girl a text by allowing her to prepare a meal for the family to access her cooking abilities and she also purposely leave some house chores to see if the girl is lazy in taking care of the home;This the aspect where girls find little complain from their mother in-laws,any woman that pass through this level without the slightest complain should be inquisitive.
Temperament test: some mother in-law do this by intentionally provoking the woman to see how she will react to such issues before marriage and she use it to access the marriage posterity.
Nigerian girls tend to be afraid of their mother in-laws to the extent of asking a man they just met if he still have a mother?this is so because of the wrong impression they get from stories been told by already married girls or women.
These behavior of mother in-laws are almost a general thing in the world as women wants the best for their son,trying to make sure he is taking the right wife that will lead to a better for worst marriage.
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